11/02/2026
Iāve always been the person who could figure it out.
Give me a problem, and Iāll find a solution.
Give me a deadline, and Iāll meet it.
Give me a crisis, and Iāll probably be the calmest person in the room.
But ask me to make a simple phone call to reschedule a doctorās appointment? I might put that off for three weeks. š
I can manage multiple businesses, speak in front of hundreds of people, and make decisions involving millions of dollars without hesitation.
Yet Iāve spent an embarrassing amount of time rewriting a two-sentence email.
š§ I can remember things people said to me when I was as young as THREE years old. Yes, three! I realize thatās extremely rare.
I think in pictures.
I can probably tell you what you were wearing, who else was in the room, and where everyone was standing during a crisis 40 years ago.
But I can walk into another room and completely forget why I went there.
I can work for 12 hours without realizing I havenāt eaten, yet struggle to start something that should take 15 minutes.
Make that make sense! š
For decades, I thought these were just personality quirks.
Some were tremendous strengths. Others were frustrating, and frankly, I couldnāt understand why certain things were so difficult when I could accomplish things that seemed considerably more complicated.
Then came my late AuDHD diagnosis.
Suddenly, a lot of things started making sense.
Hereās why Iām sharing this.
Competence in one area doesnāt automatically translate to competence in every area.
We make assumptions about people based on what we see them accomplish.
As leaders, we need to be careful about those assumptions.
The employee who can solve your biggest operational problem might genuinely struggle with a seemingly simple administrative task.
That doesnāt make them lazy, difficult, or less capable.
And no, Iām not suggesting we lower our expectations or standards.
Sometimes a different approach is all thatās needed.
Different doesnāt mean less capable.
š¬ Now Iām curious: Whatās something incredibly complicated that comes naturally to you, yet a seemingly simple task feels almost impossible?
And for those of you in leadership, have you ever mistaken someoneās difficulty with a particular task for a lack of ability?
š Letās talk about it in the comments. I suspect more of us experience this than we realize.
ā»ļø If this resonates, share it. Someone in your network may need the reminder that struggling with one task doesnāt diminish everything else theyāre capable of accomplishing.