Zoe Clews & Associates

08/11/2026

Matching outfits for a court appearance? Coincidence, coordination or a carefully considered statement? I gave Daily Mail my take on why Russell Brand and Laura chose to dress alike for his trial

Every day of his r**e trial, Russell Brand and his wife Laura Gallacher arrived at Southwark Crown Court looking perfectly coordinated - from their outfits down to their messy buns.

06/11/2026

Ever wondered how someone can go from treating you like you're everything to making you question if they even care at all?
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They might not have changed. You might simply be seeing a side of them they didn't show you at the beginning.
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At the start, there's dopamine, chemistry and the thrill of pursuit. You're seeing them in a very particular context, where making a good impression is their deepest priority.
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Character becomes clearer when someone is frustrated, challenged or doesn't get what they want. What happens when you disagree, say no or need support? Can they take responsibility? Can they show empathy when it isn't convenient?
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And here's why you don't leave: Once you've become emotionally invested, your mind can work hard to protect the image you initially formed of that person. You want to believe your original judgment was right, so you explain away the contradictions. They're stressed. They're scared of vulnerability. They're just going through something. You keep giving them the benefit of the doubt again and again, hoping to get back the person you thought they were.
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But you can become so focused on recovering that early version of someone that you stop paying attention to the relationship you're actually in.
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You cannot keep using someone's past behaviour to excuse their present behaviour. What matters is what they're consistently showing you now, not what they once promised or how wonderful things felt at the beginning.
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Stop trying to make the evidence fit the person you thought they were. Have the courage to change your opinion when the evidence changes.❤️‍🩹
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If this resonates with you and you’d like to explore what support might look like, contact our team at [email protected]
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This content is for educational purposes and isn’t a substitute for individual professional support.
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02/11/2026

Delighted to be featured in Psychologies Magazine ’s latest issue, where I explore the psychology of controlling relationships, how they slowly strip away your sense of self, and why walking away can feel so much harder than it looks. ❤️‍🩹

Here’s the uncomfortable truth: someone can make you feel like the most special person in the world, then slowly make your world smaller until they’re almost all you have left.

It doesn’t always start with obvious control. Sometimes it starts with intense attention, possessiveness and the intoxicating feeling of finally being chosen. Then, little by little, you see less of your friends, question yourself more and start managing someone else’s reactions instead of living your own life.

And this is where people get stuck. They keep chasing the person they met at the beginning, convinced that if they’re kinder, quieter, more understanding or just good enough, that version will come back.

But how long are you going to keep sacrificing yourself for the possibility of someone becoming who you hoped they were?

Understanding why you’re attached matters. But so does recognising what this relationship is actually costing you. You can love someone, understand their behaviour and still accept that the relationship is hurting you. You do not have to lose yourself to prove your love. ❤️

Don't miss out on Psychologies' latest issue in stores, or online via the 'PRESS' link in my bio ✨

29/10/2026

Not all narcissistic parents look like the villain. Some look like the perfect parent. And that’s what makes it so bloody confusing.
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Because when control looks like concern, guilt looks like sacrifice and emotional neglect gets brushed off as “that’s just how they are”, you can grow up questioning your own experience.
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You learn to keep the peace, work harder for approval, manage everyone else’s feelings or make yourself as small as possible.
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And the really difficult bit? You can carry those same patterns into adulthood without realising where they began.
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So instead of only asking, “What did my parent do?” ask yourself:
“Who did I have to become to cope with it?”
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Because people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the constant need to prove yourself? They may have started as ways of keeping you safe. But you don't have to keep living by the rules you learnt as a child.
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If this resonates with you and you’d like to explore what support might look like, contact our team at [email protected]
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This content is for educational purposes and isn’t a substitute for individual professional support.
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29/10/2026

Not all narcissistic parents look like the villain. Some look like the perfect parent. And that’s what makes it so bloody confusing.

Because when control looks like concern, guilt looks like sacrifice and emotional neglect gets brushed off as “that’s just how they are”, you can grow up questioning your own experience.

You learn to keep the peace, work harder for approval, manage everyone else’s feelings or make yourself as small as possible.

And the really difficult bit? You can carry those same patterns into adulthood without realising where they began.

So instead of only asking, “What did my parent do?” ask yourself:
“Who did I have to become to cope with it?”

Because people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the constant need to prove yourself? They may have started as ways of keeping you safe. But you don't have to keep living by the rules you learnt as a child.

If this resonates with you and you’d like to explore what support might look like, contact our team at [email protected]

This content is for educational purposes and isn’t a substitute for individual professional support.

27/10/2026

A wonderful afternoon last Sunday collabing with the brilliant The Held Space for our SOLD-OUT 'Shaking Off Anxiety' TRE and clinical hypnotherapy workshop, bringing together two complementary approaches to support relaxation, release tension and help regulate the nervous system. ❤️

A huge thank you to everyone who joined us and made the afternoon so special. It’s a privilege to create space for people to pause, reconnect with themselves and invest in their wellbeing.

It’s always a pleasure to collaborate with the brilliant Luke Mullen, whose expertise in TRE, alongside my work in clinical hypnotherapy, offers an opportunity to explore both physical and psychological approaches to stress and anxiety.

Thank you also to Leigh Lou and Luke for creating The Held Space, such a thoughtful community built around connection, wellbeing and feeling supported. Our workshops continue to sell out, and we’re so grateful for the enthusiasm and trust everyone brings to these sessions.

It was also lovely to spend time with the brilliant Sara-Louise Ackrill, who we are so proud to have as one of our Neurodiversity Coaches & Thera**sts in the ZCA team ❤️

Looking after our wellbeing matters, particularly when life feels demanding. Having the space to slow down, reconnect with ourselves and feel supported by others in a safe space and community can really make all the difference.

And such a cute goodie bag!

Thank you again to everyone who came along. We look forward to welcoming you to another workshop soon! ✨ check for details of future workshops!

27/10/2026

A wonderful afternoon last Sunday collabing with the brilliant for our SOLD-OUT 'Shaking Off Anxiety' TRE and clinical hypnotherapy workshop, bringing together two complementary approaches to support relaxation, release tension and help regulate the nervous system. ❤️

A huge thank you to everyone who joined us and made the afternoon so special. It’s a privilege to create space for people to pause, reconnect with themselves and invest in their wellbeing.

It’s always a pleasure to collaborate with the brilliant , whose expertise in TRE, alongside my work in clinical hypnotherapy, offers an opportunity to explore both physical and psychological approaches to stress and anxiety.

Thank you also to and Luke for creating , such a thoughtful community built around connection, wellbeing and feeling supported. Our workshops continue to sell out, and we’re so grateful for the enthusiasm and trust everyone brings to these sessions.

It was also lovely to spend time with the brilliant , who we are so proud to have as one of our Neurodiversity Coaches & Thera**sts in the ZCA team ❤️

Looking after our wellbeing matters, particularly when life feels demanding. Having the space to slow down, reconnect with ourselves and feel supported by others in a safe space and community can really make all the difference.

And such cute goodie bags!

Thank you again to everyone who came along. We look forward to welcoming you to another workshop soon! ✨ Check or the link in my bio for details of future workshops!

26/10/2026

Thrilled to be featured in Heat magazine’s latest issue alongside the brilliant Georgina Vass, where I unpack the psychology behind some of the dating behaviour horrors that can leave us confused, questioning ourselves and wondering what on earth just happened.

Dating now has a name for almost every nightmare. You might have been ghostlit without knowing it, or put up with someone caspering their way out of the relationship while you waited for a proper answer. Maybe an ex keeps haunting you through Instagram Story views, or a date went from planned to polter-ghosted before you even left the house.

These behaviours can leave us searching for answers and holding on to possibilities that may never become reality. ❤️‍🩹

If you’re spending more time analysing someone’s behaviour than enjoying the relationship, it’s worth paying attention to. You don’t have to keep investing in someone simply because you feel attached to them, or because you’re hoping they’ll eventually change. 🤷‍♀️

It’s about what they’re actually giving you. And is that really enough for you? If not, it might be time for some cobwebbing. 🕸️

Read the full article here: https://vist.ly/5p2tb and discover the dating behaviours to watch out for, and top tips to prevent them haunting your love life! 👻💘

22/10/2026

Self-sabotage is self-protection wearing a very convincing wig.
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You procrastinate, pick fights, find flaws in good relationships or convince yourself you're not ready.
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You call yourself lazy, broken or your own worst enemy.
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But what if there's more going on?
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Sometimes, your brain is trying to protect you from rejection, failure or getting hurt. Even when the thing you're avoiding is exactly what you want.
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Because familiar pain can feel safer than unfamiliar happiness... But you can't build a different life using the same old survival strategies.
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Next time you catch yourself getting in your own way, ask yourself: What am I afraid might happen if this actually works out?
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Because you might not need to push yourself harder. You might need to understand what you're protecting yourself from.
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If this resonates with you and you'd like to explore what support might look like, contact our team at [email protected].
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This content is for educational purposes and isn’t a substitute for individual professional support.
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22/10/2026

What if the problem isn’t that there are no good men...
but that inconsistency has started to feel like chemistry?
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When you’re used to chasing, overthinking and never quite knowing where you stand, someone consistent can feel surprisingly unfamiliar.
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But butterflies aren’t always a sign of compatibility, they can be a sign that your nervous system has been activated.
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Healthy love might not give you the same highs and lows. It gives you consistency, emotional availability and the freedom to stop guessing where you stand.
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So maybe it’s time to stop asking where all the good ones have gone and start asking:
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What have you learnt to mistake for attraction?
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Because what you might be missing is the ability to recognise what healthy love actually feels like.
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If this resonates with you and you’d like to explore what support might look like, contact our team at [email protected].
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This content is for educational purposes and isn’t a substitute for individual professional support.
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